Thrixian

Don't focus on what you can't control, crave, & want so badly. Focus on WHAT you CAN DO to help your situation today. What power or resources you do you have right now? What CAN you do today or this week? It may not be the ideal but take if you do anything related to it, you move ahead! Do what is possible and what needs to be done. Focus on working with reality. Right now you don't have to have it. It doesn't have to be perfect or ideal. Find another way if needed. Do something different. It's ok! Just do. Nothing is ever certain or permanent. Eventually you will get to what you want.

Life is tough sometimes. Just remember you're NOT alone! Everyone is working so hard to...survive or achieve. In fact, you don't realize how many people "right in front of you" are struggling as hard as you are...if not more. It's SUCH a hard concept to grasp when you personally struggle. Every tiny thing seems worse than it really is. Then instead of doing, you become paralyzed with fear. Truth is almost everyone is dealing with fear of ego, judgment, or failure. Or has at some point. Everyone just hides it. So have faith! You are capable! Just do what you need to do. Period! Don't worry about what others think. They're focused on their own issues. I am often amused by people who assume I have a perfect life. It happens often. Why? They have have NO idea how much I suffer or struggle! When I tell them my reality, they are often left stunned. It was false perception!Point is, I'm not judging. You know why? I'm trying to survive too. I'

Anxiety is self-created. It occurs when we over-focus on a negative situation & build up negative thoughts. It is a physiological sensation manifested from future "perceived" fears. That's right. It has NOT happened yet! So stop! Pull yourself back to reality and right NOW. Stop wasting time and assuming fears will come true. It is not a certain. Can you predict the future? No! Yet, YOU CAN steer yourself through planning, preparation, and action. The moment you shift to "doing" the above and focus on that, you have engaged your OWN mind. You have taken emotional control of it. So come up with plans and solutions. Start taking action. You will quickly replace anxiety with motivation and inspiration to do more. Because....you are in charge. Just keep doing and stay moving.

You fight tirelessly to keep your love in check but your jealousy won't let you stay a week without arguing with your dude you meet with your girl friends and all they do is brag about how their taken by their lovers to fancy dates and your sitting there wondering why your dude doesn't treat you that way. your poor dude works overtime and your busy accusing him of not having time for you but he's busy working for the future coz swag won't pay bills, ambition and determination will. he won't give you all the money and offer the world to you but he will treat you with respect and love you like a real man! your leave your loving guy who gives you the most priceless thing called #love and you jump to this rich guy who takes you to fancy places and gives you #money. you feel lonelier than ever because the only thing this guy can do for you is to please you with money and not appreciate and love you. your even more jealous coz your girl friends are now eyeing your d

Stand by your man. Your man is not perfect. You aren’t either, and the two of you will never be perfect. But if he can make you laugh at least once, admits to being human and making mistakes, hold onto him and give him the most you can. He’s not going to quote poetry, his not thinking about you every moment, but he’ll give you a part of him that he knows you could break. His heart, He may not have the words to make you feel okay every time but he has the arms to hug you…Ears to listen to you and a heart that aches to see you smile. So, don’t hurt him, don’t analyze him, and don’t expect for more than he can give. Smile when he makes you happy, yell at him when he makes you mad, and miss him when he is not there. Because perfect guys don’t exist, but there’s always one guy that is perfect for you. Think about it!

When we're incomplete, we're always searching for somebody to complete us. When, after a few years or a few months of a relationship, we find that we're still unfulfilled, we blame our partners and take up with somebody more promising. This can go on and on--series polygamy--untilwe admit that while a partner can add sweet dimensions to our lives, we, each of us, are responsible for our own fulfillment. Nobody else can provide it for us, and to believe otherwise is to delude ourselves dangerously and to program for eventual failure every relationship we enter...

We’re all seeking that special person who is right for us. But if you’ve been through enough relationships, you begin to suspect there’s no right person, just different flavors of wrong. Why is this? Because you yourself are wrong in some way, and you seek out partners who are wrong in some complementary way. But it takes a lot of living to grow fully into your own wrongness. And it isn’t until you finally run up against your deepest demons, your unsolvable problems—the ones that make you truly who you are—that we’re ready to find a lifelong mate. Only then do you finally know what you’re looking for. You’re looking for the wrong person. But not just any wrong person: the right wrong person—someone you lovingly gaze upon and think, “This is the problem I want to have.”

A Lady is scared to get back into a relationship with someone, not because she's sick and tired of guys or think they're all the same, #but because she's afraid. She's afraid of putting herself in a vulnerable position again. She's afraid of opening up to someone new again. She's afraid of getting attached to someone again. She's afraid of being lied to and being betrayed again. She's afraid of finding out truths and secrets again. She's afraid of having high expectations just to be disappointed again. She's afraid of feeling jealousy towards someone again. She's afraid of her trust issues acting up again. She's afraid of her insecurities overwhelming her again. She's afraid of her mind assuming the worst again. She's afraid of her heart getting broken again. Worst of all, She's afraid of losing someone again because everyone she cares about, seems to eventually leave her life... 😢😢😢

The past had been choking me and sometimes i got so mixed up in it that i didn't realise my opportunities... I found myself when i realise that the first point of survival is valuing oneself... Now, i can see how bright the future is that i put on shades... Love yourself so you won't see yourself as 'worthless.' find yourself before someone helps you with that. Make your own way and path... Remember, an end of a road is just a place to turn and keep driving never a stoping point. #WORD

They left Me with unexplained "good-bye" ,didn't they? Yea, they did... They might have said those words which engulfed My strength. They must have broken those promises which they were supposed to keep, indeed, forever. I bequested a lot of tears because of them. Love wasn't the endowment they gave but, pain was the present I got. Heart break makes the world fall apart for a moments but, may be it's one of those things which may or may not be compared to death. Inevitable, dark, and painful but something which still gives my soul a new life. Only a ruptured heart can understand the pain it has got. But, no matter what, picking up the million smashed pieces of My heart and moving on is the best option. Ever wondered why so many stars light up the dark sky? You say no? Those stars in the sky narrate My story, they help Me see myself amongst them, they try to inspire me. People around are like stars. So many stars are there, some in group some lonely. So

I'm usually not the kind of person that would write a love letter, but I thought i'd do this for you because you are the the most wonderful thing in my life right now. I know we're far apart, but hey, like I said, distance means so little when you love someone so much. I was just talking to a friend about you and explaining how you are on my mind 24/7. I can't eat, sleep, walk, drive, or even work without thinking about you. You are in my thoughts all the time. I'd tell you you're in my heart, but I don't feel like that would be right, because my heart is not mine anymore -- it belongs to you. You are sweet, loving, caring, beautiful, and you make me feel like one of the luckiest guys in the world. I need you to know I am with you through everything, the bad and the good. I've given you my heart and I hope that you won't break it. Keep it and give it some loving from time to time. Remember when I promised you that I'd never let you down,

You can't control what happens in life sometimes. Everyone has fears & insecurities that drives emotions & actions. It's okay if you made wrong choices/mistakes! We are all human, more forgiving, & accepting by nature than you think. NO ONE is perfect! Trust me, we all have skeletons in our closest. Those who pretend not to, probably have more than you. You aren't worth less for past mistakes or failures. You may see, hear, or feel it that way, but not true. Get over that. Then realize that YOU have the power build YOURSELF up more, in YOUR OWN eyes, & those of others. It just takes willingness to admit & then positive pro-active actions. That's it! It's harder when you're strong or stubborn, but easier each time you try. Positive actions towards others yield positive feedback sooner or later. It feels good, feeds your mind & inspires you do another! So, self create the cycle of positive thinking, self appreciation/love, & hop

An elderly carpenter was ready to retire. He told his employer-contractor of his plans to leave the house-building business to live a more leisurely life with his wife and enjoy his extended family. He would miss the paycheck each week, but he wanted to retire. They could get by. The contractor was sorry to see his good worker go & asked if he could build just one more house as a personal favor. The carpenter said yes, but over time it was easy to see that his heart was not in his work. He resorted to shoddy workmanship and used inferior materials. It was an unfortunate way to end a dedicated career. When the carpenter finished his work, his employer came to inspect the house. Then he handed the front-door key to the carpenter and said, “This is your house… my gift to you.” The carpenter was shocked! What a shame! If he had only known he was building his own house, he would have done it all so differently. So it is with us. We build our lives, a day at a time, often putting l

Some people allow circumstances to define them. Some allow circumstances to defeat them. But, not you, never. You, define, the circumstances. You, are never the result of circumstances. Instead, you, create them. You triumph through them. You rise above. When you take 100% responsibility for everything that happens or comes your way, then you are the cause, the creator and not the effect, nor the creation of circumstance. You recognize it is your thinking that makes something so. What is IS by your declaration. Speak only to bless, heal, prosper, inspire and motivate. Never get caught up in telling stories of woe. Redefine yourself as someone magnificent. BE powerful and positive. Know that you’re in charge and any mess you create you resolve. The mess is only for your good. From chaos stars are born. Once you know you are in charge, and you are, you don’t have to suffer. You realize it is all for your good, your evolution and transformation. Believing makes it so. You know that wh

Take It or Leave It #Ladies ONE DAY, you'll also be a mother. That undoubted feeling must come. That natural nurture must occur. Today, if you ask every lady "who do you love MOST, your #Father or #Mother??? They will say 'FATHER' without hessistance. WHY??? When the best you can do for yourself is watch/observe and be close to your MOTHER, 'cos one day, you'll also be in her shoes, and you'll realise, 'I should've learned!' Aside being a Nun, there'll always be that moment that you'll feel that "motherly" urge! Even if your Mother is BAD - that's more reason to learn, so you'd be a GOOD Mother to your own Children! I've seen lots of ladies get into their matrimonial homes, and still rush over to their MOTHER whenever something that needs 'motherly' knowledge, cos they possibly don't know a thing, cos they never paid attention!!! Being a mother, is the HARDEST job ever. Being a mother, is a gif

In this place while searching for some perfect people I actually found myself stupid but wise enough to learn that, there is no such thing called 'perfection', especially if that's the only thing you're tryin' to look for in people. Today, I don't know a Perfect Person but flawed people worth Loving. I haven't met a person yet who has got a record of not making a single mistake but forgiving them made them so much dearer. I hardly know any person not lying for any cause but understanding the reasons behind made them so innocent. I still have some people in my life who did no good but they haven't done anything bad either to be judged wrong. It's all about how we perceive.! It's just that we fail to look at the things as they are and allow our consciousness to corrupt. Life is beautiful with so wonderful people around. Lets stop looking for that perfect person, n try to be one.!

If Today A Girl Loses Her #Virginity With A Guy She Loves Truly But The Guy Turns Out To Be A Cheat Then She Is Tagged As A “Slut”/“Characterless Girl”. I Ask What Is The Mistake Of The Girl??? That She Loved A Guy??? That She Slept With Someone She Thought She Would Marry??? That She Has Now Lost Her Purity Which Would Satisfy Her To-Be Husband’s Male Ego And Make Him Believe That She Is Fit To Be His Wife??? I Wonder How Can A Biological Wall In The Girl’s Body By 'Breaking' Decide The Level Of Her Morals??? Girls Also Belong To The Globalized World, Interacts With The #Opposite_S3x, #Loves, Has #Break_Ups, #Overcomes Them And #Smiles Again And No One Has A Right To Tag Them Any Thing For That Reason... But If A Girl Looses Her Virginity Doesn't Mean She Wont Be A Good Or A Perfect Wife In Future... So #Gentlemen, If U Go Looking For A Girl For Marriage, Search For A True Heart And Not Something Like “Pure Ghee”, Because She's Gonna Be Ur Life Partner And Not

You need to stop waiting until you're really close to losing your girl to start acting like you care & want to be with her. You can't just wait until last minute to show her she matters to you, you're supposed to show her that every day you're with her. You can't just wait until she threatens to leave you to start giving her reasons to stay, you're supposed to give her those reasons even when she doesn't ask for them. Eventually, she'll run out of chances to give you because you're not using them right so what's the point? Know what you have that's right in front of you & cherish it before somebody takes it away from you. #Just_Treat_HER_Special

A lot of men act like they are doing a woman a favor by asking for her hand in marriage but let’s think about this: She changes her name, changes her home, leaves her family, moves in with you, builds a home with you, gets pregnant for you, bear your children for you, pregnancy destroys her body, she gets fat, almost give up in the labour room due to the unexplained pains of childbirth, even the kids she delivers bear your name. Till the day she dies, everything she does benefits you. So who is really doing who a favor? #Dear_Men appreciate your wife today because it is not easy to be a Woman. Being a woman is Priceless!!!! Too bad so many women of today don’t even know their value. I Value My Woman...

Sometimes life could be ironic when it comes to intimate relationships. A guy falls in love with a lady who has everything he wants in a wife but he is not ready for marriage, whereas the lady is far ahead of him and cannot wait but gets married to someone else probably, someone she does not love the way she loves him! A lady is ready for marriage but is approached by wrong guys who do not have the qualities she desires in a man but they are ready for marriage whereas the right guy seems not to beavailable. This becomes an issue of theright person at the wrong time or the wrong person at the right time. What a twist? Nevertheless, God’s grace ina man or woman’s life positions the individual to meet the right person at the right time. Even if you have missed someone you love, another opportunity willbe available for you. When God is involved in one's life, He orchestrates events and circumstances to give you the best. My friends don’t think that you’ll alway

There is nobody who doesn’t have true love in his or her heart. We all want to love and be loved but it HURTS a lot when you love someone so much, you care about him or her, you sacrifice any little thing you get and give it to that person, You believe in everything they tell you, you bear that person’s situation, you change your life in many ways because of that person you take to be your everything, you accept to lose some vital people in your life because of that person, you ignore other people who are interested in you because of him or her, you TRUST that person so much with all your heart, You keep yourself for only that one person yet he/she is loving someone else behind your back. As time goes on that person starts to ignore you. Starts doing strange things, gives you no attention and the relationship starts to be shaky. You try to fight for that person’s love yet seriously they are letting you go. You panic, you plead, you start begging for forgiveness yet that person in actua

Love is not all about holding hands or rubbing your bodies against each other. It’s also not about cuddling and snuggling all the time. Love can happen every time your eyes meet. Love is when you close your eyes, and you can feel his presence. Love can be felt every time you think about him, and his thoughts cross your mind; it sends tingles to your bones. Love is when all you want is to watch him doing his work. Love is when you feel him beside you while doing work. Love is not just being physically together. Love is to be one soulfully; whenever they want to meet each other traveling through time and space. Love is looking into each other’s eyes and through them into each other’s Hearts. Love is seeing him smile because of “YOU.” Love is spending time together without even speaking a word or doing a lot of talking. LOVE IS JUST “YOU” AND “HIM”…AND… NO ONE ELSE IN-BETWEEN……

Don’t go for the most handsome man because he has a lot of money. Don’t go for the one who looks like a Greek god, but doesn’t love you nor understands you, your feelings or your emotions; who never thinks about you and always takes you for granted. Don’t always go for the good looking man, because looks can be deceiving. Go for the one who can Love you from his heart and understands you. The one for whom you are not just his wife, but a human being who has dreams and feelings too. Go for the man who will help you with all your household chores so that you may have some free time for yourself. A man who can understand your mood swings, your silence, and can read your expressions. Go for the one that will look after your home while you are gone. Who helps you finish your work early so you can work on your dreams. Who never thinks twice before calling you whenever he misses you no matter how important your meeting was. Waits for you at dinner with your favorite food. Makes you

If you genuinely love a woman then make efforts to make her feel your love in the deepest pit of her heart and all through her soul. Try to be a part of everything she does and be her best friend. Make efforts to understand her mind. Make efforts to understand her pain. Make efforts to understand what her heart desires. Try to give her your undivided time and attention and show her that how a man can love a woman perfectly by staying by her side and supporting her in everything she does. Make her feel loved in every drop of her blood, in every vein of her body and in every marrow of her bones…

You cannot get the love of a woman if you keep doubting her and keeping tabs on her. You won’t be able to stay in a relationship with her if you are always spying on her, checking her phone all the time and questioning her about the people she meets. It is okay to be jealous sometimes, but you cannot suffocate her by showing over possessiveness and by being suspicious all the time. If you love a woman then you need to trust her first and then thinkof a long-term relationship with her. You need to respect the woman you love so that she can also respect you back. There is nothing left in a relationship if trust and respect are lost. Love isn’t all she needs, she needs a strong bonding of self respect and trustworthiness. If you cannot trust her then don’t make her life miserable by showing your spying skills..

Follow your dreams… Follow your heart… Follow who you are… Sometimes it would be so much easier to hide behind your friends and do just what you need to get by, but that’s not how you were made… You were made to stand out in the crowd and not just blend in… You were made to be great not just ordinary… You were made to live your wildest dreams…

LEO TRAITS Strengths: Creative, passionate, generous, warm-hearted, cheerful, humorous Weaknesses: Arrogant, stubborn, self-centered, lazy, inflexible Leo likes: Theater, taking holidays, being admired, expensive things, bright colors, fun with friends Leo dislikes: Being ignored, facing difficult reality, not being treated like a king or queen People born under the sign of Leo are natural born leaders. They are dramatic, creative, self-confident, dominant and extremely difficult to resist, able to achieve anything they want to in any area of life they commit to. There is a specific strength to a Leo and their "king of the jungle" status. Leo often has many friends for they are generous and loyal. Self-confident and attractive, this is a Sun sign capable of uniting different groups of people and leading them as one towards a shared cause, and their healthy sense of humor makes collaboration with other people even easier. Leo belongs to the element of Fire , just like Ar

Its not over yet, i guess it's just the starting. It was not about You, It was not about Me, I wanted it to be about Us, But it ended up being just with Broken Me. I was losing it all. And the greatest thing i lost you somewhere within me. A part of me was always yours but a bit of yours never became mine. I dreamt of making it to the end but only with you. I dreamt a roller coaster ride but only with you. And now since, you are not there all my dreams are just shattered. I know nothing can fix the broken things between us. You wanted to leave, and you left your story ended, But that is from where my story started. I was never such before. And all that i am now, i don't blame you. i blame myself, as you came with a tag Handel with care, and somehow somewhere i failed. The day i lost you was the first failure of my life and from then i am failing at each and everything. I have no clue when i'll be able to find the older ME, but the thing i know is i'll never be able

"If Today A Girl Loses Her Virginity With A Guy She Loves Truly But The Guy Turns Out To Be A Cheat Then She Is Tagged As A “Slut”/ “Characterless Girl”. I Ask What Is The Mistake Of The Girl? She Loved A Guy? She Slept With Someone She Thought She Would Marry? She Has Now Lost Her Purity Which Would Satisfy Her To-Be Husband’s Male Ego And Make Him Believe That She Is Fit To Be His Wife! I Wonder How Can A Biological Wall In The Girl’s Body By Breaking Decide The Level Of Her Morals? Girls Also Belong To The Globalized World, Interacts With The Opposite S3x, Loves, Has Break Ups, Overcomes Them And Smiles Again And No One Has A Right To Tag Them Any Thing For That Reason..... But If A Girl Looses Her Virginity Doesn't Mean She Wont Be A Good Or A Perfect Wife In Future... So If U Go Looking For A Girl For Marriage, Search For A True Heart And Not Something Like “Pure Ghee”, Because She's Gonna Be Ur Life Partner And Not Ur Meal To Satisfy Ur Hu

You can't control what happens in life sometimes. Everyone has fears & insecurities that drives emotions & actions. It's okay if you made wrong choices/mistakes! We are all human, more forgiving, & accepting by nature than you think. NO ONE is perfect! Trust me, we all have skeletons in our closest. Those who pretend not to, probably have more than you. You aren't worth less for past mistakes or failures. You may see, hear, or feel it that way, but not true. Get over that. Then realize that YOU have the power build YOURSELF up more, in YOUR OWN eyes, & those of others. It just takes willingness to admit & then positive pro-active actions. That's it! It's harder when you're strong or stubborn, but easier each time you try. Positive actions towards others yield positive feedback sooner or later. It feels good, feeds your mind & inspires you do another! So, self create the cycle of positive thinking, self appreciation/love, & hop

Staying positive, optimistic, & learning how to see positive possibilities in the negatives, is NOT an easy feat. The number one secret is "consistently & constantly" reassuring YOURSELF in order to increase strength, courage, & confidence to just tackle the fear & go for something. You have to talk yourself into believing, rather than depend on others around you to create the thoughts or feelings for you. Focus on reassuring yourself with as many positive thoughts & affirmations everyday! Build on positive thoughts all day. Convince yourself. Its a challenge, but also the first step in how to gain confidence, overcome doubt/obstacles/fears that gives you strength to be positive & go for things. Remember: it all starts with YOU first. I talk to myself positively all day, even "more" so when unsure or insecure. Must be pro-active to squash those throughts!

Some relationships are nothing but mistakes After the end of a relationship, people say end it up on a good note and only keep the fond, cherishable memories with you. They say you need to let go and move on, They say you need to stop paying attention, even to your emotions? Really? You must be kidding me right? In most of the circumstances, specially after you've had a long serious relationship, can you really end it up on a good note? How can you even stay friends after that? Coz every time you talk to that person, he'll always have the same spot in your heart. You will never learn to let go. How can you suddenly be cool with him flirting around with other girls or paying more attention to them, while you sit in a corner and watch him? To let go? Definitely you must, when that guy doesn't deserve to be there. You've put yourself through hell coz of him and face it, he didn't give a damn. You cried every night coz of him, Every song reminded you of hi

― Warn your girl child never to sit on anyone's laps no matter the situation including uncles. ― Avoid getting dressed in front of your child once he/ she is 2years old. Lean to excuse yourself. ― If you have to hire a house-help please kindly take them for HIV screening to determine their HIV status, properly interview them and make up your mind to treat them well. ― Never allow any adult refer to your new born as 'my wife' or 'my husband' ― Never tempt your husband with your younger sister. (Else he'd say its hers and the devil's fault) ― Avoid unnecessary familiarity and make sure you take care of your husband by yourself lest you lead him into temptation. ― Whenever your child goes out to play with friends make sure you look for a way to find out what kind of play they played together because young people now sexually abuse themselves. ― Never force your child to visit any adult he or she is not comfortable with and also be observant if your chil

You are in your late 20s and early 30s and almost all your friends are married; including that ugly, short and fat Jane! Yet you think you are a good wife material, but you are still single and getting really worried. Well, MAYBE guys are not looking your way because you are guilty of a number of these offenses: 1. YOU ARE TOO HAUGHTY. Typically, you will quickly size up a guy and bring him down with intimidating looks and sarcastic responses. Well, I suggest you marry yourself. 2. YOU ARE LOOKING FOR MR. PERFECT. You want a rich, well-built, neat, romantic, hardworking, honest, God-fearing, faithful, dark, tall and handsome gentleman from a good background who has a good job, drive a good car and loves you unconditionally. I’m afraid that perfect guy you read about in a romantic novel doesn't exist. Wake up gurl. You’ll never find a perfect guy – anywhere. Just like you, everyone else is imperfect. Accept that fact or marry the guy in your novel. 3. YOU SMELL DESPERATE. Men ha

First love... It smells like a bunch of red roses, with dark velvety petals, and pearls of dew glittering on them, perfectly shaped, and reflecting the seven colours of the rainbow from within their nothingness. Like the smell of earth after that shower of rain you watched from your window, and smiled inwardly to yourself at how much you seemed to enjoy the solitude on a dark lonely night. Like a chocolate cake, freshly baked, and served straight out of the oven. Soft, so soft - that it melts inside your mouth and fills you up with a chocolaty burst, as you bite in. Like the shampoo-ey smell of freshly washed hair on a sunny winter day, and the soft wet caress it leaves on your skin, as you wave your hair about, making you reminisce of better times. Of happier times. Like the smell of his breath, mixed with his cologne - so musky, so masculine, that all you want to do is to hug him tight, and be lost in that heaven forever. First love smells of memories. It smells of happiness. Of

There is nobody who doesn’t have true love in his or her heart. We all want to love and be loved but it HURTS a lot when you love someone so much, you care about him or her, you sacrifice any little thing you get and give it to that person, You believe in everything they tell you, you bear that person’s situation, you change your life in many ways because of that person you take to be your everything, you accept to lose some vital people in your life because of that person, you ignore other people who are interested in you because of him or her, you TRUST that person so much with all your heart, You keep yourself for only that one person yet he/she is loving someone else behind your back. As time goes on that person starts to ignore you. Starts doing strange things, gives you no attention and the relationship starts to be shaky. You try to fight for that person’s love yet seriously they are letting you go. You panic, you plead, you start begging for forgiveness yet that person in actua

Why is it so easy for men to emotionally move on and disconnect from a relationship? I'll let you in on a secret; men often don't move on easily from relationships, at all. In fact, if a man is in love with a woman who no longer wants to be with him, he can be heartbroken for years. You just won't be able to tell. I’d like to tell you a story. Picture a long term couple who have just broken up. The woman, who has undoubtedly put all her energy into making her relationship work, is devastated. She tells her friends. She tells her family. She might spend night after night crying, externalising her grief, and generally having a difficult time. She's hurting, no doubt about it. But as time passes, the pain starts to ease. She is rediscovering her own inner strength, and with the help and support of her friends and family, she slowly realises that she doesn't need this man that she once loved. As time goes on, she manages to build a fulfilling life for herself once mor

You've been FRIEND ZONED! Stop being a "loser" and tell her this story: A guy and a girl were having a conversation- Guy: I love you! Girl: I love you too but only as a friend, I've never thought of you in terms of a relationship. You are my best friend. Guy: Thanks for the clarification, I think I should be leaving now as I can`t change my feelings for you. Girl: What's wrong with you? Don't think over it too much. Nothing has changed. Guy: Yeah, maybe! You know why my friend resigned from his job despite getting a good promotion. Girl: That's strange..But why did he quit? Guy: Actually, he didn't like the terms of the promotion. Girl: What terms? Guy: His boss offered him a great position, more responsibilities but the same salary without any increment. Girl: Oh! He would have been stupid to have worked harder without any incentive. He did the right thing. Guy: Exactly! Hope you get the point Goodbye and have a great life! Stop being a

Happiness - The most overrated thing in life! Yes, it does make us happy. But imagine how boring would it be if every day, every moment was a happy one? What would be the point of learning? We would be aimless. We would be clueless about what to do in our life. Life would stagnate. Living life is more important than achieving happiness. And it is different from surviving or existing, as many would already know. Yet, happiness is all that we chase. Although it does serve as a goal in life, but to the point that it gets overrated and we forget to live in the moment, and most importantly, to embrace every experience in life like a step closer to the attainment of wisdom.

Never create unnecessary drama, and don’t surround yourself with those who do. Choose to spend time with people who you are proud to know, people you admire, who love and respect you – people who make your day a little brighter simply by being in it. Don’t walk away from negative people, RUN! Life is too short to spend time with folks who suck the happiness out of you.

When everyone else turns away their face, a friend provides you his shoulder. Many people start neglecting their friends when they are in a relationship. They go on listening to their partner and start distancing themselves from their friends. The friends shed a silent tear and start staying away from their path. But, when the relationship begins to wane, you don't have anyone else but your friends. That friend will still listen to you and will happily provide you with his/her shoulder to cry upon. That friend will never argue on why you didn't call him/her or why you don't give them time. Friends are those amazing people who would always be there. When you have butterflies in your stomach after talking to your crush or when you need a shoulder to cry when your partner hurt you.. They would never let you do stupid things alone. I am so lucky to have friends who know the lyrics of the song in my heart and sing it back to me when I forget it. Love your friends because the

Being a girl is never easy! Its told, best is not to try understand a lady, coz u'll either fall in love with her or u're gonna go mad. But for all the guys who want to be answered, let me try answer a few of those 'whys' If you ask us, 'Why we shop so much?' Here it is, We shop when we are happy coz it makes us feel like we're the ultimate glam dolls, We shop when we are sad, coz it makes us feel better (can it be anymore obvious), We shop when we are bored, coz thats the ultimate timepass! Guys who keep cribbing about it, dont see the clear picture. We consider ourselves the best, and we want nothing but the best for us. We go drooling over the variety of things available in the stores!Its simple and easy for guys, you have some 10 colours with roughly 4 different designs, and you're done shopping.While we going around matching that dress in black with the perfect pair of heels to earrings. You ask us 'Why do girls like to keep a guy hanging

She's the girl who prefers one rose instead of a dozen. She's the girl who would rather stay with me on a friday night than go to a wild party with random strangers. She's the girl who wouldn’t make me wait on her hand and foot, but would do anything to make me happy. She's the girl who would enjoy having a movie night rather than going to some fancy restaurant. She's the girl who would rather stay up all night sharing secrets than going out and having fun. She's the girl who won’t make me hold her bags, but would rather hold my hand instead. She's the girl who will love me more than anyone can possibly dream of. She's the girl who would give the world to see me smile...

Did you know that i wake up every day with you on my mind ? Did you know i go through the day with you on my mind ? Did you know when i go to bed you're on my mind ? Did you know when i sleep I dream of you as you can tell you been on my mind? since i met you, never have i stopped thinking about you..!! Those phone conversations that last for hours are the reason I sleep @ work. The all day texts we do are why my battery is always dying. The smile that I wear on my face is because you give me something worth being happy about. The uneasy feeling in my tummy is because you constantly give me butterflies. Oh, and the random moments where I just stare into space and day dream is because I'm remembering how lucky I am to have someone like you..!! PS - Sometimes I just need to leave a sweet msg in her Inbox when she's sleeping just to remind her that I'm the Person On Whom She Can Rely On...

Only once in your life, I truly believe, you find someone who can completely turn your world around. You tell them things that you’ve never shared with another soul and they absorb everything you say and actually want to hear more. You share hopes for the future, dreams that will never come true, goals that were never achieved and the many disappointments life has thrown at you. When something wonderful happens, you can’t wait to tell them about it, knowing they will share in your excitement. They are not embarrassed to cry with you when you are hurting or laugh with you when you make a fool of yourself. Never do they hurt your feelings or make you feel like you are not good enough, but rather they build you up and show you the things about yourself that make you special and even beautiful. There is never any pressure, jealousy or competition but only a quiet calmness when they are around. You can be yourself and not worry about what they will think of you because they love you

I wanna make you smile, Whenever you're sad. Carry you around when your arthritis is bad. All I wanna do, Is grow old with you. I'll get you medicine, When your tummy aches. Build you a fire if the furnace breaks. Oh it could be so nice, Growin' old with you. I'll miss you, kiss you, Give you my coat when you are cold. Need you, feed you. Even let you hold the remote control. So let me do the dishes in our kitchen sink. Put you to bed when you've had too much to drink. Oh I could be the man, Who grows old with you. I wanna grow old with you.

Heart melting... A girl who was fervent in serving the Lord. She was a real born again, she don't lie, cheat, fornicate, or into boy friend and girl friend. The only problem that she had was.... Admission. She has wrote JAMB many times and failed. And was hoping on God to grant her admission into high institution, and that also made her to become more serious with God. A year came, she wrote JAMB aswell, and was waiting for result to come out. So when the result came out. Behold she made it and was given an admission into the university. But she had another problem. Her problem now is how to get the money to pay for her entrance to the university. She went and met one of her uncles. The uncle promised to give her the money but in one condition, he said that he will sleep with the girl first, before Giving her the money. The girl being a born again and a God fearing lady, refused the offer. She went back home and was disappointed. She had only 2weeks to pay, or else the

It’s the worst feeling in the world to love and hate someone all at the same time. And it’s hard to watch things change when all you want is for them to stay the same. It’s funny but stupid how you want everything and nothing at the same time. It’s crazy when you want to let go, but you keep holding on. And when you want to move on, but you’re stuck right where you started. When feelings come and go and you can’t decide what you want. When you have so many things to say but you don’t know where to start. When you want them in your life so bad, but all you can do is push them farther and farther away. It’s so hard to think back to how things used to be and look at it now and realize that things are different and they may never be the same. You tell yourself it’s not worth it, but if it really didn’t matter, you wouldn’t spend so much time thinking about it. You Can't Deny It...

I am not the first person you loved. You are not the first person I looked at with a mouthful of forevers. We have both known loss like the sharp edges of a knife. We have both lived with lips more scar tissue than skin. Our love came unannounced in the middle of the night. Our love came when we had given up on asking love to come. I think that has to be part of its miracle. This is how we heal. I will kiss you like forgiveness. You will hold me like I'm hope. Our arms will bandage and we will press promises between us like flowers in a book. I will write sonnets to the salt of sweat on your skin. I will write novels to the scar of your nose. I will write a dictionary of all the words I have used trying to describe the way it feels to have finally, finally found you. And I will not be afraid of your scars. I know sometimes it's still hard to let me see you in all your cracked perfection, but please know: whether it's the days you burn more brilliant than the sun

He gazed at her, watching her very serious face as she scrutinised his bruised elbow. He studied her expression: it looked pained. Perhaps more pain than he actually felt at that moment. Lost in love and wonder, he smiled stupidly as she fussed and fretted because the doctor was delaying meeting them. “What are you smiling for?” she asked him. She was annoyed. She was beautiful. He exhaled deeply, moved closer to her, held her hand in his and then spoke: “You see, I have heard people say so many things about how to be happy. Some find happiness in wealth, some in their friends, some others in their jobs... But have you ever realized how happy a newborn baby is as he rests in his mother’s arms? He knows nothing about this world. He knows not what wealth is, he knows not what the future holds. All that he knows is he is being loved and taken care of. His world is at peace. And all the time that I’m with you, I feel like that newborn baby.”

As he looked over at her,it suddenly struck him how beautiful she was. Her hair was blowing carelessly in the wind, rich and dark in the sunlight. He had the oddest impulse to touch it, to reach out, to see if it was as soft as looked. Her lips were curved into a slight smile that seemed to radiate warmth. He wondered who or what she was thinking of, and felt his heartbeat skip when he imagined her smiling for him. She was happy and free and every part of her being seemed to be a mystery, just waiting to be discovered. He found it crazy that he'd never noticed before her eyes were just the right shade of green, or how her laughter sounded like summertime. They had been friends for so long, and yet he'd never really looked at her. He found himself starring, desperate to learn more. "What are you looking at? She Asked, finally pulling him out of his daze. He was at a lost for words. Why did she suddenly make him nervous? They'd been friends for years. Friends we

ALL SHE WANTS IS TO BE BEAUTIFUL. She's gorgeous. She's beautiful. She stares in the mirror and hates what she sees. She spends hours in the morning fixing her hair, putting on make-up, and still hating her reflection. She exercises five hours a day, starves herself skinny, makes herself throw up at night. She goes in depression. Starts cutting herself. She spends thousands to go under the knife to change the beauty she already had. She's beautiful. Anyone can see it; except her. Why can't she just learn to love herself instead of putting herself through all this agony? She's never good enough for herself. Doesn't see what the point of her living is. Life is hopeless for her. She gets an overdose and feels the rush of death.

Hey Sweetheart, Starting from the very next weekend, after the day we get engaged, until the day we get married – We are going to a date every weekend in the evening. We will watch a movie and have some good food in a different restaurant every time. Long drives, Long walks. Candle light dinners. Picnics. That’s a promise Our wedding day would be the last day of your life you’d cry while leaving your house. After that you’d cry either because of happiness or because of shampoo gone in your eye. xP I will make sure you stay happy and content for the rest of your life. At every step, you will always find me right behind you to catch you if you fall or push you if you stop or guide you if you’re lost. I will be reliable, responsible and supportive at all times. I will respect you, love you and adore you all my life. I will kiss you everyday at least these many times - when I wake up, just before leaving for the office, after coming back from the office and before going to bed.During

What Hurts The Most. . . Do you know that feeling when you know that soon someone is gonna leave you? You become all bitter instead of cherishing your limited time together, Why? maybe it's just a way for you to tell that person to not go, to not leave, to just stay here with you. And you think by acting that way he/she is gonna change her/his mind. But that person still leaves, which makes you feel alone, betrayed and not important to that person anymore. But maybe we were just so selfish, maybe we were just too insensitive. Haven't we though about their feelings too? That's the reason why they did say"goodbye"before they left, they tried their best to make you understand but maybe we were just too stupid to listen. They didn't have a choice, because if they did they would choose to STAY. Leaving is as hard as to be left too.

When you're sad and depressed, I will be here to put a smile on your face... When you're angry and frustrated, I will be here to calm you down... When you're hurt and in tears, I will be here to wipe them away and mend the pain... When you're lonely and have no one, I will be here to comfort you... When you're feeling unloved and unwanted, I will be here to tell you how very important you are... When you're having a bad day and need to lash out, I will be here to let you let off steam, you can yell at me... When there is something on your mind that you need to say, I will be here to listen and understand... When your lost in confusion, I will be here to help you figure things out... When you feel like your going crazy, I will be here to bring you back to sanity... When you are so overwhelmed and need to get away, I will be here with open arms so we can runaway together... When your scared and frightened, I will be here to protect you and mak

SHE'S BROKEN AGAIN After a long time, she missed him Tears came out from the eyes which had dried Faint memories of those moments touched her mind..... She wanted him back She wanted to feel him again Everything came alive in just the blink of an eye The day it all started to the day it all ended..... The moments when she thought he belonged to her The time when she thought she belonged to him Those lonely walks hand in hand Those long conversations & short silly fights His loving touch in the wintry nights Those warm hugs which she'll always miss Those cosy cuddles in his manly chest Their first kiss in the month of December Their favourite love songs in his sweet voice and karaoke sang Those hopes and swearing words Those promises to last forever Her expectations that he'll never change His materialistic dreams, His selfish plans Superimposed on her innocent trust Her false belief on his love Her blind faith on those words Her pain, Her sorr